Goodbye and peonies
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My weekend was tempered by the sad news that my next door neighbour had passed away. I had posted about her awhile back when she was "missing". About a month ago Mr M across the street told us a "car had come and took her to hospital" but no-one had any other details.
A couple of weeks ago the owner of a fast food place knocked on our door. Apparently our neighbour supported her shop four or five times a week and had not been in. She left me a phone number to call if I learnt anything. People were concerned but attempts to find out anything from the family failed.
On Saturday a total stranger stopped us as we walked down our front path. She said she used to "play the numbers" with our neighbour and had heard she had died. That prompted me to check the death notices online and I discovered that she had passed away at the end of May.
The sad task of telling the neighbours and phoning the shop-owner fell to me. The neighbours were saddened but were also overwhelmingly annoyed with the family for not letting anyone here know what had happened. Some of these people have shared the same street with her for the 15 years that she lived here.
I felt really sad. She was a little eccentric but in a wonderful way. She told fascinating stories of growing up in the south. She had a crush on the manservant. No matter how many times the manservant told her to just stick any misdirected mail in our box she would ring the bell and have a little chat with him. She thought he was a little soft in the head because he would be outside in winter in bare feet and shorts! (I agreed with her).
I will miss her knocking on our door asking us to ring her mobile number because she had lost her phone somewhere in her house. I will miss having a little giggle in my head at some of the things she wore. I never found out the name of the jeweler she paid to make lovely items. I never heard her play her old piano or the organ in her church.
She was only 62 years old - I thought there was much more time to do all that.
She once knocked on our door to tell me that her "heart was aching" because my peonies were lying on the path. I took scissors and cut them for her to put in a vase. She brought them back to show me how they looked in her vase - she was so pleased.
I did not get to give her any peonies this year - they were flowering around the time she was dying. I wish I had known which hospital. I would've taken a bunch to her.
Farewell Sararietta - I will miss you.
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We never realize just how many people we touch, and in what ways. Even through the internet, her story has touched us.
It would be a good idea, especially for those of us who are on our own, to leave instructions (where someone will find them) of people to contact in the event of death. One elderly lady I knew requested that her executor write to everyone on her Christmas Card list to let us know she had died. I appreciated that very much -- there are some Christmas cards I mail each year with trepidation, wondering if the person is still alive.
Thanks for sharing the story -- and the lovely, lovely peonies!
Haven't they come to clean out her apartment?
Her house feels especially empty now, knowing that she won't be coming back to it. Because we share a common wall I used to be able to hear (feel?) her banging around and especially going up and down her stairs.
Yes it seems that all the elderly neighbours especially liked her and would've gone to a service. I think I might've gone if I had known too. Although the family were mourning it is a shame that someone from her church did not come by and let anyone know. Perhaps everyone assumed that someone else had passed on the news.
The peonies are huge - bigger than my hand. With all the rain we had they looked a bit tattered though! :-)
So sad. There are many special people among us and it helps to be reminded to appreciate their "specialness".
I love Vox for reminding me of this!
It's so true... Sararietta left you and your neighbors too early - and 'in a silent way'.... Thats it what touches my heart - though I'm so far away...
Thank you for sharing this. I'm with you.
That is so well said realworld. Most of us slip silently away without the fanfare of a media blitz but we were just as important as those in the limelight - maybe more so.
Oh, Emjay. This post touched me deeply. It's nice to know she had neighbors and community members who cared.
The peonies are lovely.