Goodbye and peonies

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It is always sad when someone passes and it is always strange to think of how much and how many lives that person has touched and been involved in! really quite a mind blower! Sorry for the unfortunate happening but when it is time it is time, and I hope everyone she touched remembers all the good things and funny things!
Thank you Jamie - even in the short time that we lived next door she made an impression.
I remember the "missing" post and thinking/commenting that she sounded like someone I would like. Funny, though I didn't know her, it's sad knowing that she's not in the world. Thanks for sharing and also for the peonies. She was not old. May Saraietta rest in peace and enjoy the better world where she now is.
Thank you for sharing the sentiment for Sararietta and peonies! She made an impression on me, too, thanks to you.

We never realize just how many people we touch, and in what ways. Even through the internet, her story has touched us.

It would be a good idea, especially for those of us who are on our own, to leave instructions (where someone will find them) of people to contact in the event of death. One elderly lady I knew requested that her executor write to everyone on her Christmas Card list to let us know she had died. I appreciated that very much -- there are some Christmas cards I mail each year with trepidation, wondering if the person is still alive.

Thanks for sharing the story -- and the lovely, lovely peonies!

This brings tears to my eyes, especially the part about her saying her heart was aching because the peonies were laying on the path. She was such a lovely neighbor. You'll likely not think of peonies the same way again.

Too bad her family didn't share the news with the neighborhood. I'm hoping it was because they were sick with grief and too overwhelmed to reach out.

Beautiful photos!!

Take care and hugs.
Oh that's so sad! I remember reading your posts about her when she was missing for a while and I assumed she was much older than 62. It's sad but it sounds as if she was well loved. I agree it was thoughtless and really, pretty rude of the family not to say anything to the neighbors. This was a nice tribute to her. Beautiful peonies too.
@crankypants - "I agree it was thoughtless and really, pretty rude of the family not to say anything to the neighbors." - I and many more would disagree. Have you ever lost a family member or loved one? Is your early instinct or desire to share that news with the neighbors? Instead of judging her family for their action in their time of grief, why not extend them compassion?
Awwwwww......Very touching.


Haven't they come to clean out her apartment?

Her house feels especially empty now, knowing that she won't be coming back to it. Because we share a common wall I used to be able to hear (feel?) her banging around and especially going up and down her stairs.

Thank you Magnifika

Yes it seems that all the elderly neighbours especially liked her and would've gone to a service. I think I might've gone if I had known too. Although the family were mourning it is a shame that someone from her church did not come by and let anyone know. Perhaps everyone assumed that someone else had passed on the news.

The peonies are huge - bigger than my hand. With all the rain we had they looked a bit tattered though! :-)

No, apparently they haven't. The neighbour on the other side has been paying herself to have the grass cut - which I only learnt yesterday. I assumed that the son or brother must have been by while I was at work to do that. My husband took her rubbish bins out a couple of weeks ago because they were overflowing and could attract rodents etc. A house looking vacant and unkempt is open to squatters and that would not be a good thing.
That is a good idea re the list of people to contact. I used to correspond with a lady my grandparent's age and when she passed away I got a little notification card. As we get older I feel the trepidation you do when it comes to sending Christmas cards.
Thank you re the photos. They were huge flowers and they had a lovely perfume. You are correct - each year when those flowers bloom I will remember her fondly. It was only about 18 months that we knew her but there are so many things I am going to miss about her.
Very sweet and poignant recall. 62 is indeed very young...it is only 8 years away for me. And I agree with LBeeeze, even I won't think of peonies the same way again.
What a wonderful sweet tribute.

So sad. There are many special people among us and it helps to be reminded to appreciate their "specialness".
Thank you Scorpion. I am just a smidgen behind you - I'm starting to think 70 looks young!
Thank you Lauri. Yes, sometimes we need to just slow down a little to see how special people around us really are.
I completely agree. Some may be annoying...but we need to look for the exceptional attributes in those annoyances.

I love Vox for reminding me of this!
I'm truly sorry to hear of this. 62 is fairly young.
There are the little things in life skimming us more than the rumpus around the world where the media are with all the time.
It's so true... Sararietta left you and your neighbors too early - and 'in a silent way'.... Thats it what touches my heart - though I'm so far away...
Thank you for sharing this. I'm with you.
This is so sad, it makes my weep. I can't help but think that you brought some joy to her life...all to sad...62 is too, too young.
I agree with FD, Emjay, this is such a sad story. At least you were able to interact with her, have neighbourly contact, and care about her. Many people in cities neither know or care about who lives next door.
Thank you Adaline - 62 is way too young. I used to think it was elderly but as I get closer it is not!
and 'in a silent way'.... Thats it what touches my heart -

That is so well said realworld. Most of us slip silently away without the fanfare of a media blitz but we were just as important as those in the limelight - maybe more so.
It has felt very strange this week to know that she will not be coming home again. On the w/ends she would sit on her deck writing letters - she had not embraced a world of email and twitter - I will notice her absence tomorrow.
I think that is the small country town girl coming out in me. I don't feel right unless I know the people around me and acknowledge them. I love waving to the elderly people sitting on their porches across the road when I get home from work or going across for a quick chat on the w/ends. It really makes me feel connected.

Oh, Emjay. This post touched me deeply. It's nice to know she had neighbors and community members who cared.

The peonies are lovely.

We are lucky to live in a street where there is a real feeling of community amongst the neighbours - especially the older ones. We have had 2 new very young couples move in over the past year and they are not nearly as connected. It saddens me to think that this loss of community might die out as the elderly pass away.
One of the guys I worked with on my short term project passed away. I may have told you about it. It made a big impression. He was only a few years older than me. It made us all sad.
Wow this is beautiful. This will stay with me for a long time. Peonies are such incredible flowers. So unusual and striking yet they are so delicate, they need a gentle touch. The connection between these beautiful flowers and your lovely neighbour is truly touching.
Thank you Tree. Yes peonies are delicate and quite striking at the same time - and these have a lovely perfume. I didn't know what they were when they first popped out of the ground. I posted photos of the green leaves asking my vox neighbours to help me identify them! :-) They produced huge stunning flowers.

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